By Margaret Lee, LICSW.

On my way to work recently, I turned on the radio and was surprised to hear “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” Could the holidays really be here already? While this season brings joy and excitement for many, it can also stir up feelings of sadness, loneliness and grief. Holiday traditions often remind us of what has changed—a loved one who is no longer with us, family gatherings that look different or circumstances that make celebrating more difficult. When everything around us seems to say we should be happy, it’s easy to feel as though we’re the only ones struggling.

The truth is, it’s okay if the holidays don’t feel wonderful this year. Rather than putting pressure on yourself to feel a certain way, take a moment to consider what you need. Perhaps it’s spending time with a friend, giving yourself permission to decline an invitation or finding a new way to honor a meaningful tradition. Even small steps can make a difference. Remember, you can feel grateful for what you have while still grieving what you’ve lost. Give yourself the same patience and understanding you would offer someone you care about.

If the holidays feel especially difficult this year, you don’t have to navigate them alone. CJFS is here to offer support through life’s challenges, during the holidays and throughout the year. Whether through professional counseling, support groups or other services that help ease everyday burdens, we’re here to help you find connection, comfort and a way forward.