When Holidays Are Challenging

By LaBrena Friend, LMSW

During a recent visit with one of my clients, we had a heartfelt conversation about the upcoming holiday season. We shared our favorite traditions and memories. Between October and December, there are many holidays to celebrate, from Rosh Hashanah to Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve. However, over the years I have observed that for many of my clients, holidays can be particularly challenging. It’s a time when feelings of sadness and loneliness can creep in, especially for those who have lost loved ones or have strained relationships with their family members.

How can we better support the older adults in our lives, whether they are surrounded by family or feeling a bit isolated during the holidays? Here a few ideas:

1. Involve them in holiday planning – showing you value their input.
2. Prepare their favorite holiday foods – reminding them of cherished holidays of the past
3. Help them with send greeting cards out to their loved ones – emphasizing the importance of reaching out.
4. Accompany them with shopping– turning errands into fun, social outings.
5. Offer transportation to religious services – so they can celebrate their faith and see people they know and care about.
6. Suggest that they consider reaching out to a professional to talk through whatever feelings they are having – often times getting an objective opinion can be helpful.

For those older adults who live on their own and may be feeling lonely during the holiday season, a small effort often has a big impact.

1. Check in and communicate. Many older adults living independently may go days without speaking to anyone, especially those in poor health or with limited mobility. A phone call or visit can brighten their day and their outlook.
2. Encourage social activities. Invite them to participate in activities or offer to take them to holiday gatherings. Being with friends and family can help lift their spirits and provide the social interaction needed to relieve loneliness.
3. Send greeting cards. Receiving letters and cards, especially during the holidays can bring joy and help them feel loved, appreciated and connected.

As we step into the holiday season, remember, it can be tough for older adults who may feel alone or are grieving. A little extra effort—like chatting, involving them in activities, or just reaching out—can brighten their day and show them they’re loved and appreciated.

CJFS supports older adults and their families as they navigate the journey of aging. Customized services include home safety assessments, care management, counseling, transportation and escorted medical visits. To learn more, call 205.879.3438. CJFS serves people of all faiths and financial means.