Counselor's Corner_August 2016
Our licensed, experienced social workers write monthly articles that are filled with educational facts about issues that face older adults and the loved ones faced with the challenge of caring for them. Click on the image below to read the most current Counselors’ Corner article. To read an archived article, please click on one of the links below.
This Month’s Counselor’s Corner
Never Too Old for Love and Adventure
by Catherine Findley, LCSW
In the old days, you would likely meet Mr. or Mrs. Right at college, on the job, through family and friends, or maybe at a bar. Today, people are increasingly getting together through online dating. The over 50 set is the fastest-growing segment of people using online dating to meet people. You are never too old to try something new, and perhaps to find your perfect match! Plus, it can be fun!
Here are some tips to help you on your way:
1. Do your homework. Some dating sites are free, such as OkCupid or Plenty of Fish, and some require paid membership, like Match or E-Harmony. The advantage to a paid membership is people who invest may take a venture more seriously and be more accountable - so the chance of encountering scammers and frauds may be reduced.
2. Tailor to your interests. There are sites that cater to specific groups, like Jdate, Christian Mingle, Gaydate, Black People Meet, Fit Singles, Our Time, etc.
3. Be safe. Don't give out personal information until you have had a chance to get to know someone. The dating sites are designed so that you can interact without sharing your personal information. Don't give out your address, phone number or email at first. Agree to meet for a first date at a public place and have your own transportation. Once you have more time and real life experience with someone, you can begin to share more.
4. Never give money to someone you just met online. Unfortunately, there are unsavory sorts who look for victims online.
5. Enlist your friends. Ask for help when choosing a profile picture and filling out a profile form that lets potential dates know who you are.
6. Let yourself shine. Make sure your profile expresses your goals, values, and lifestyle choices that make you unique. Avoid cliches, as there are too many people out there that enjoy 'long walks on the beach'.
7. Show a little humor. Most people love and resond well to humor.
8. Be resilient. It may take awhile to meet someone you truly click with. Try to enjoy the process of getting to know someone. Even if there is no romantic spark, you may find a friend while having coffee.
In our monthly newsletters, we feature an article by one of our experienced staff members on our Clinical Staff. Is there a topic you are particularly interested in? Then please feel free to contact us to get answers!
Parenting -- "Dealing with Cliques," by Catherine Findley, LCSW - October 2013
Senior Issues -- "Keeping Holiday Gatherings Enjoyable and Safe," by Robin McMilin, LCSW - November 2013
Caregiving -- "Getting the support YOU need as you support a loved one," by Stuart Jaffe, LGSW - December 2013
Senior Issues -- "Aging With Grace: A new sharing group," by Robin McMilin, LCSW - January 2014
Counseling & Community -- "The Need for Social Support," by Gail Schuster, LCSW - February 2014
Parenting Issues -- "Parents, Getting the Cold Shoulder?," by Catherine Findley, LCSW - March 2014
Seniors & Community -- "Exercise Matters," by Stu Jaffe, LGSW - April 2014
Senior Issues -- "Regret: The Burden and the Blessings," by Robin McMilin, LCSW - May 2014
Senior Issues -- "Senior Life in the Fast Lane - Driving for Older Adults," by Gail Schuster, LCSW - June 2014
Senior Issues -- "Tossing & Turning? The importance of sleep for older adults", by Catherine Findley, LCSW - July 2014
Senior Issues -- "Reducing Stress to Age Well", by Stu Jaffe, LCSW - August 2014
Senior Issues -- "Sharing the High Holy Days with your Interfaith Grandchildren", by Gail Schuster, LCSW - September 2014
Senior Issues -- "What's In Your Medicine Cabinet?" by Robin McMilin, LCSW - October 2014
Senior Issues -- "Fountain of (Brain) Youth" - November 2014
Senior Issues -- "Stress Reducers for Dementia," by Pam Leonard, LBSW - December 2014
For Everyone -- Stu's Thoughts for 2015," by Stu Jaffe, LCSW - January 2015
For Everyone -- "On Change," by Gail Schuster, LCSW - February 2015
Older Adult Issues -- "On-line Brain Games -- Help or Hype?" by Robin McMilin - March 2015
Older Adult Issues -- "Making Friends as We Age" by Catherine Findley - April 2015
For Everyone -- "On Forgiveness," by Stu Jaffe, LGSW - May 2015